If Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes
For the woman who knows she can’t keep living this way and is ready to come back to herself.
There’s this saying I keep coming back to when I’m tired of hearing myself say “soon,” and nothing actually changes.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
And I don’t mean that in a hustle-y, grind-until-the-wheels-fall-off kind of way. I mean it in the most honest, well… hot damn kind of way — because at some point, you realize you can’t keep going at the same pace, with the same patterns, carrying the same weight, and expect your life to feel different.
You can’t keep praying for a new season while holding onto the habits, beliefs, and rhythms that are draining you. You can’t keep white-knuckling your way through the week, telling yourself you’ll rest “when things calm down,” when life has already proven to you that it doesn’t really calm down — it just shifts the pressure to a different place.
And I need to say this out loud, because women like us have been sold a lie.
If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, stretched thin, or struggling to stay consistent, we’re told it must be a mindset issue. If you’re not getting the results you want, you must not want it badly enough. And that lie quietly turns into shame. Shame turns into self-doubt. And self-doubt turns into you questioning your worth, your confidence, your identity — the very things that make you you.
But here’s the truth most people won’t say: it’s not you.
It’s the system. It’s the noise. It’s the pressure to perform, produce, and prove your way into feeling “enough.” It’s the way we’ve been conditioned to chase outward success while slowly losing ourselves inwardly. God didn’t create you to function like a machine. He created you to be fully alive, fully present, and fully anchored in Him.
And I know this woman.
The high-achiever. The do-it-all, be-it-all woman. The capable one everyone depends on.
The one who keeps showing up and handling it while inside she’s running on fumes. The one who looks “fine,” but feels strangely disconnected from her own life.
I know her because I’ve been her — and if I’m honest, I still slip back into her sometimes. That’s why awareness matters. Truth brings us back home.
Here’s the part I don’t want you to gloss over:
If nothing changes, this version of life doesn’t stay neutral.
Another year of surviving compounds. The exhaustion deepens. The numbness grows. The distance between who you are and who God created you to be gets wider — not because you failed, but because drifting happens quietly. And eventually, you wake up wondering how you got so far from yourself.
Survival is not the promise.
Abundant life is.
And if you’re honest, you can feel the gap between the two. The gap between who you’ve been and who you know God is calling you to become. The gap between what you’re doing and what you actually want. The gap between “I believe God has more for me” and “I don’t know how to get there from here.”
This is exactly why I created I Am… Becoming.
Not another blueprint telling you who you should be. Not a pressure-filled program that makes you feel behind. Not a digital course you buy and never finish. This is a six-week, soul-led reset designed to help you come back home — to your identity, your faith, your clarity, and the woman God created you to be.
Each week, you’ll receive a guided devotional, an audio reflection, and journal prompts you can move through in real life, at your own pace — on a walk, in the car, on the couch, in the in-between moments when you finally get a breath. It’s gentle, yes — but it’s also direct. Because you cannot keep living disconnected from yourself and call it “fine.”
So here’s the truth-telling moment:
If you keep doing life the same way, you already know where it leads. If you’re tired of surviving. If you know something has to change.
This is your next step.
This isn’t about turning into a brand-new person overnight. It’s about stopping the slow drift away from yourself. It’s about letting God restore what the world has stripped away. It’s about becoming…
XO,
Rachel
P.S. You were created with, on, and for a purpose. So if you’ve been waiting for the “right time,” let this be your reminder: the right time is usually the moment you finally tell the truth. If nothing changes, nothing changes. And you deserve more than survival.